Marriage is undeniably one of the most important aspects of our lives, and its success or failure has a significant impact on our happiness. It’s not too hard to keep a relationship happy and stable for life. Many researchers believe that, consistent small and simple efforts create a successful marriage. Below are some valuable steps for anyone in a relationship, whether you’ve walked down the path or not.
• Have realistic relationship expectation – Before marriage, people often have unrealistic ideas about their spouse-to-be, expecting perfection in all aspects. Remember no one is gifted with all of the best qualities. Appreciate the positive qualities of your spouse and accept the fact that there will be mistakes.
• Spend quality time together – It is not enough to share meals or small talk together. You should always try to find time which strengthens your relationship. Quality time may be anything from having a quiet reunite at the end of the day and talk about how it went, exercise together, revitalize your marriage by going out for a meal, seeing a movie or going to a bar or anything you both enjoy.
• Sorry should not be the hardest word – Just as we ask god to forgive us when we make any mistake, we should also do the same with our spouses. Romance and passion may bring couples together, but compromise and respect will keep them there. Learn to say sorry.
• Honesty – Be honest about your marriage expectations, discuss and compromise with each other.
• Never bring up old issues – It can be very hurting for another person to be reminded of past mistakes. Never use an old fight as a weapon in a new one.
• Be financially responsible – Money is one of the top marriage annoyance, especially in these challenging financial times. Big adjustments here. Start and work on a simple family budget.
• Give surprises at times – Let your partner know that they’re special, valued and you don’t take them for granted. You can give surprises to your partner by preparing a special meal, giving a small gift or flowers, dressing up and beautifying oneself, or sending a secret note in a lunchbox.